So is this where we are?

So an evangelical pastor David Grishma decided it was in the bounds of his religious belief to go to a Texas mall on Saturday and yell at little kids Santa isn’t real. Christmas is for Jesus so on and so on. What better way to show Christian love to your fellow man then to yell at their kids and ruin their children’s holiday experience? Not to mention probably scaring the kids as well. Because nothing says man of god like being a complete and utter ass. Why was this so called man unable to extend love to those children waiting in line? Continue reading “So is this where we are?”

Really? The Cup Thing Again?

So here we go with the cup thing again. I went to Starbucks today and ordered my usual a Grande Americano with no room for cream or sugar. As I waited in line there was a woman questioning the meaning of the cup. I hadn’t seen the cup yet. I listened to the barista she explained the cup is about unity and the artwork was drawn with one continuous line. The continuous line is meant to represent the fact that we are all connected, which I know for some people out there that is a tough, bitter pill to swallow. Now when I got my cup I saw people of both genders, different ages, and physical characteristics, etc, on the cup and I thought “that’s cool”. Continue reading “Really? The Cup Thing Again?”

For My Own Peace of Mind I Decline

Perspective is a powerful thing, and when you combine perspective with observation and hindsight more often than not there is a level of clarity reached that allows you to live a fuller life. I grew up in my mother’s family, a female dominated family where women run everything and the men who stay have little to no voice. The men who marry in are reduced to the role of moneymaker. I can honestly say I am the only woman in my mother’s family that does not go through my husband’s wallet taking cash or make a mad grab for his check on payday. Continue reading “For My Own Peace of Mind I Decline”

A Vile Word

What is it about the word nigger that it has been able to survive and flourish for generations? It’s like the zombie apocalypse of words, meaning no one knows who patient zero for the use of such a vile word is, it keeps infecting people, and there doesn’t seem to be a cure. It is a word that was used to tell black people to go home when they walked into white schools, stepped on white college campuses, moved into white neighborhoods, or sat at lunch counters. Continue reading “A Vile Word”

The Problem isn’t the Liquor

I was reading an article on the Raw Story today where Stanford University’s answer to Brock Tuner’s disgusting actions is to ban hard liquor on campus. Really Stanford? The problem with Brock Turner’s actions isn’t the party culture on campus, which Brock used as an excuse. The problem is that Brock Turner is a troll. He is one of the worse forms of life. The problem is he was raised by a father who referred to his disgusting acts as 20 minutes of actions and a mother who only thoughts weren’t of how vile his behavior was but over her sadness in not being able to decorate her dream home because of the stress of the trial. Continue reading “The Problem isn’t the Liquor”

It is just Hair

To all people but especially to black women it is just hair. As black women we cannot allow of self worth, our intelligence, our contribution to society to be determined by our hair. As black women we are the only race of women where are our can become a topic of national debate. There are work and school regulations implemented around our hair. Our hair is a source of contention, hatred, and ridicule. Continue reading “It is just Hair”

A Lady with a Lamp

A Lady with a Lamp

The Statue of Liberty is 130 years young. Through the best and worst of times she has stood with confidant and grace. At her feet there is a plaque, which simply says: Give me your tired, your poor,

Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,

The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.

Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed to me,

I lift my lamp beside the golden door!” Continue reading “A Lady with a Lamp”

Marriage and Civil Rights

Yesterday North Carolina residents passed an amendment to their constitution that would effectively recognize heterosexual marriage as the only legal relationship in the sate.  So not only did the residents of North Carolina take away civil rights of homosexual couples but they took away the rights of heterosexual couples as well because now heterosexual common law marriages have no standing either.  I looked at pictures of the people who supported the amendment and one woman was wearing a shirt that had a man and woman stick figure and underneath it said “real marriage”.  I wished I could have asked her if this is a real marriage and all you need is one man and one woman that why do so many heterosexual marriages end in divorce?  Why are there so my incidents of domestic violence in “real marriages”? Why are their so may unhappily married, “real marriage” couples?  But as much as I would like to ask the question I know that all I would get in return is misinterpreted and misquoted excerpts of the Bible.

We are a nation that clearly expresses in our national Constitution that our nation shall have no formal religion yet laws are made based off of one formal religion’s ideals.  When are people going to realize that gay marriage is about civil rights, it’s about equal protection under the law.  It’s not about moral judgment, or enforcing your moral beliefs on others.  We have become a nation that talks about inclusion but constantly excludes the people within its borders.  If you don’t believe in gay marriage that’s your right, and don’t marry someone of the same sex but how dare you create, and support laws that prevent others from living their lives, loving their spouses, and raising a family.

As a black woman married to a white man the issue of gay marriage reminds me of the issue of interracial marriage in the United States.  Not too long ago states and the people who reside within did everything they could to stop black and whites from marring they protested, and just like the gay marriage issue they took abstract verses in the Bible and distorted them to support their narrow-minded cause.  They talked about how it was unnatural, going to be the down fall of man and the United State, they created laws to prevent it and they did it all under the guise of it being God’s will.  These disillusioned people did everything they could to prevent people of different races from loving each other, marring, and raising a family.  And now sadly instead of learning from their mistake they have decided to make gay marriage the outlet for their distorted views.  When are we as a nation going to realize that civil rights are for everyone not just for the select few?  You don’t have to agree with gay marriage but you don’t have the right to deny someone the right to marry whom he or she loves.  I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again there is nothing someone can do in their relationship that can under mind or weaken the marriage that my husband and I have.  So if two people of the same sex marring under minds or weakens your marriage than your marriage wasn’t all that great to begin with and maybe instead of denying someone else the right to marry you need to take all of that energy your using to deny civil rights and put it into strengthen you relationship you’re your spouse and mind your business.  Because it’s real easy to say your doing God’s will when he’s not here to contradict what your saying.   And as for the book of Leviticus instead of pulling out one vague verse and manipulating to fit a view try reading the whole chapter or better yet the whole Bible.

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